“A sprightly, easygoing hybrid of fact, observation, advice and comedy.”âNew York Times
âWith topics like online dating apps to serious social science research, the book is sure to have you laughing if not taking a few notes.ââUSA Today
âEntertaining and illuminating.ââThe Guardian
âA hilarious, often unsettling account of what young singles go through as they search for love in the digital age.ââRolling Stone
âA funny and scholarly examination of the 24-hour romance cycle.ââBoston Globe
âThe book is an obsessive exploration of what makes hearts flutter and break across the globe, but most importantly, it dissects those ideas through the lens of a right-and-left swiping society. And as a result, Ansariâs final product doesnât only feel completeâitâs hilariously executed, even without his unmistakable high-register voice belting the punchlines. At 250 pages,Â Modern RomanceÂ is a lean, pithy read thatâs perfect to reach the tech-obsessed generation it explores.ââPaste Magazine
âWith his first foray into the literary sphere, Ansari handedly accomplishes what he set out to do.Â Modern RomanceÂ provides insight into what people do to find love. He infuses their stories with his sass and parallels their shame with much of his own. On top of that, Ansariâs advice is easy to follow and backed with science and research.Â Modern RomanceÂ is the pinnacle of romantic guides â at least until a new dating app makes it obsolete.ââVOX
âItâs hard to think of another celebrity book that also feels like breaking newsâŚ Aside from the jokes, the science of Modern Romance holds water, and is absolutely fascinating.ââAV Club
âAn engaging look at the often head-scratching, frequently infuriating mating behaviors that shape our love lives.ââRefinery 29
âThis book is essentially an Aziz Ansari standup routine in print form.Â His unique voice is present throughout the book.Â One reason that people love Aziz is his outlook on life. He has a funny way of refocusing seemingly ordinary things and zeroing in on very small details that most would not notice. He brings all of that and more to the table with this book. This book is informative, presents a lot of thought provoking topics and discusses them thoroughly. Paired with Azizâs distinct voice, this book is even more endearing.ââTheÂ Source
âFunny, informative, and surprisingly earnest.ââThe Daily Beast
âModern RomanceÂ reads like aÂ CliffsNotesÂ to relationshipping as it is currently experienced by (mostly middle-class, Ansari admits, and mostly straight) Americans. Itâs the familiar stuff of research and sitcomedy, distilled into a funny, and highly readable, summary.ââThe Atlantic
âThis book is awesome.â âContexts
âYouâre not going to find a traditional humor book. And thatâs a good thing.Â Modern RomanceÂ isÂ something a bit more unique: a comprehensive, in-depth sociological investigation into the âmany challenges of looking for love in the digital age.â Modern RomanceÂ gives an impressive overview of how the dating game has changed with the advent of cell phones and the Internet. But thereâs also some practical advice peppered in there by Ansari himself.ââBustle
âEven comedy phenoms get dumped. But when it was this Parks and Recreation starâs turn, he channeled the rejection into an extensive (and riotous) investigation of the current state of dating, going as far as recruiting an NYU sociologist to be his collaborator/wingman.â â O, The Oprah Magazine
âThe ever hip and funny comedian and Parks and Recreation star embarks on a surprisingly insightful exploration of the complex realities of dating todayâŚ. Ansariâs eminently readable book is successful, in part, because it not only lays out the history, evolution, and pitfalls of dating, it also offers sound advice on how to actually win todayâs constantly shifting game of love. Often hilarious, consistently informative, and unusually helpful.ââKirkus Reviews
âAnsari, a comedian and TV actor, has co-written a book with a legitimate sociologist about what it means to date in the modern era. When technology and instant gratification are changing the landscape of human interactions, dating is weirder than ever, and I’m looking forward to Ansari’s sense of humor and cultural criticism on the topic, which he’s started to address in his stand-up.ââNatasha Gilmore, Publishers Weekly
âAlways-hilarious Aziz Ansari proves you can be smart and funny at the same time.Â Not only did I laugh my ass off, I really learned stuff. Where was this book when I was 22 years old?Â ââSteve Levitt, co-author of the #1 New York Times bestselling Freakonomics
âLaughing is my second least-favorite thing in the world after thinking. This book was torture.Â Not a page passed without an unwanted eruption of giggles or insight. Aziz is funny as hell, and smart as shit.ââJonathan Safran Foer, author of Eating Animals
âModern Romance is just like Aziz Ansari himselfâcharming, thoughtful, reasonable, and able to distill the madness of the world into something both sane and wildly funny.ââDave Eggers, author of Your Fathers, Where Are They? And the Prophets, Do They Live Forever?
âIt’s the voices that will have you reading this remarkable book in one sitting! The voices of old people who married someone who lived in their apartment building or the building next door and the voices of the young people who check out hundreds of romantic possibilities a night, with so much choice that choice becomes impossible. And then there is the voice of Ansari himself, funny, of course, but also deeply compassionate. For after a year of surveying romance across the planet, he finds that all the apps in the world leave us with this human truth: you have to spend time with a person to figure out, face-to-face, if they’re the one. And perhaps, just perhaps, it’s the fact of spending time that makes them the one. We nurture what we love and we love what we nurture! This book defines serious fun.ââSherry Turkle, author of Reclaiming Conversation
âAnsari and Klinenberg elegantly capture the entirely new ways that singles communicate, court, and find love today. Modern Romance is a captivating read, with deep insight into history, science, and culture, and loads of wit and charm. Along the way, you may even collect some valuable tips for finding a soul mate.ââHelen Fisher, author of Why Him? Why Her?: How to Find and Keep Lasting Love
At this point, itâs been two days, and she still hasnâtÂ texted me back. Itâs Wednesday. The concert is tomorrow.Â To not even write back and say no, why would she doÂ that? At least say no so I can take someone else, right?Â Why, Tanya, why? I started going nuts thinking aboutÂ it. How could this person be rude on so many levels?Â I wasnât just some bozo, sheâd known me for years.
I kept debating whether I shouldÂ send anything, but I felt it would justÂ be too desperate and accepted thatÂ she wasnât interested. I told myselfÂ that I wouldnât want to go out withÂ someone who treats people like that,Â anyway, which was somewhat true.Â But I was still beyond frustrated andÂ insulted.
Then I realized somethingÂ interesting.
The madness I was descendingÂ into wouldnât have existed twentyÂ or even ten years ago. There I was,Â maniacally checking my phoneÂ every few minutes, going throughÂ this tornado of panic and hurt and anger all becauseÂ this person hadnât written me a short, stupid messageÂ on a dumb little phone.
I was distraught, but had she really done anythingÂ that rude or malicious? No, she just didnât send aÂ message in order to avoid an awkward situation. IâveÂ surely done the same thing to someone else and notÂ realized the similar type of grief I had caused them.
I didnât end up going to that concert that night.Â Instead I went to a comedy club and started talkingÂ about the awful frustration, self-doubt, and rage thatÂ this whole âsilenceâ nonsense had provoked in theÂ depths of my being. I got laughsÂ but also something bigger, like theÂ audience and I were connecting onÂ a deeper level.
I could tell that every guy andÂ girl in the audience had their ownÂ Tanya in their phone at one pointÂ or another, each with their ownÂ individual problems and dilemmas.Â We all sit alone, staring at thisÂ black screen with a whole rangeÂ of emotions. But in a strange way,Â we are all doing it together, and weÂ should take solace in the fact that,Â in every facet of modern romance,Â no one has a fucking clue whatâsÂ going on.Â I tried to find books that shed some light on theÂ pleasures and perils of modern romance and help usÂ understand the challenges of love in the digital age.
That book didnât exist. So I decided to write it.